How to Outsource Your Dating Life with an Online Dating Secretary

A lot of guys don’t need an online dating coach.

Maybe you already understand female attraction, your writing puts Hemingway to shame, and people often mistake you for George Clooney. Or maybe you’d just prefer to spend your free time NOT studying, OkCupid, and Tinder.

If this sounds like you, have you considered an online dating secretary? Or better yet, what if you had a team whose sole task was filling up your calendar with dates?

Then you could focus on the stuff that’s important to you: your career, your social life, or perfecting your power nap techniques. And the best part is that because your dates will be almost automatic, you can easily fit them into your busy schedule.

No more awkward conversations in bars. No more hours wasted online weeding out unattractive girls. And best of all, no more wracking your brain to write messages (that 98% of girls will never respond to anyways).

Sound too good to be true? Well, it’s already happening around the world.

Tim Ferriss’ Experiment: 20 Dates in 3 Days

We didn’t just make up the term, “online dating secretary.” This is actually a thing now and we can thank Tim Ferriss, the author, entrepreneur, and marketer.

Tim conducted an experiment that he mentioned in his New York Times Best Seller, The Four-Hour Workweek, and his blog by the same name. It was a triumphant success, too.

In 4 weeks, Tim went on more than 20 dates.

For ease, he condensed all the dates into a 3-day period and met all the girls within a half-mile from his home. He even met a keeper, dating one girl for months.

At ViDA, this is essentially what we do too. Since 2008, we’ve been writing profiles, sending messages, and setting up dates for busy professionals. We’ve had lots of success too, despite what our grandmothers said when we founded our company.

Sure, you probably won’t be starting your own online dating business. But you can steal our wisdom (aka learn from our blunders) and hire your own online dating secretary.

Handle Challenges with Cold Hard… Data

It won’t be all rainbows and unicorns, of course.

Tim Ferriss is an experienced entrepreneur. He’s trained in creating systems that can be easily explained. Plus, he’s an outsourcing pioneer who’s spent years studying how to find the best (inexpensive) talent from around the world.

At ViDA, we’ve been successful through smarts and sheer effort. In more than five years, we’ve set up thousands of profiles, sent out hundreds of thousands of messages, and hooked our clients up with countless dates.

Our secret is a data-driven approach.

We track the messages we send, analyze what gets results, and even split-test words, headlines, and photos. With our team of more than 30 online dating experts, we’re able to get proven results for our clients every month.

If you’re new to this, the learning curve is pretty steep. But if the lure of an almost automatic date-getting system has seduced you, try these tips for hiring your own online dating secretary …

1. Know what works.

If you hire a random freelancer, but aren’t sure how to direct them, you can guess what sort of results you’ll get. They’ll be random. To be successful at this, you need to understand how to get dates online. Then, you can teach your team.

Your best bet is to study an approach that’s proven to get results, then steal it. Or you could spend years developing your own system. Either way… 🙂

Here’s our system: We call it Click Magnet and we’re proud to say it’s the most effective guide to online dating you’ll find anywhere (we might be a tad partial).

Basically though, you’ll want to know how to write a dating profile, the #1 reason women don’t respond to your emails, and how to set up first dates.

2. Create your system.

Tim created a one-page document with rules and regulations. He specified the type of girls he wanted and gave examples. He also wrote a list of must-haves and dealbreakers.

There was more to it we’re sure, but Tim hasn’t released his system so who’s to say exactly what he included. You can bet his instructions were dead simple though.

At ViDA, we use a 5-step process that might inspire you:

    1. Interview: We start with an in-depth 90-minute interview and focus on uncovering the many reasons why any girl would ditch Brad Pitt for you.
    2. Write a profile: One of our copywriters writes a customized profile making you, “The Most Interesting Man in the World.”
    3. Find attractive matches: Our account managers make a list of the most attractive, compatible women in your area. Then we send it to you for approval.
    4. Send emails: Our “closer” copywriters then correspond with your matches, until they have…
    5. Set up dates: The closer sets your dates up on days and at places you’ve specified.

3. Hire your team.

You can do 1 and 2 right, but if you don’t have a team you can depend on, you’re not going to get the women you want. Tim hired a number of teams from Canada, Philippines, Jamaica, and more. Then he set each team up on one of his dating sites, offering a $150 incentive for the one with the best results.

Now we could write a book about hiring effective freelancers, but in general look for trustworthiness, copywriting skills, and organizational skills. Familiarity with dating sites is a plus too.

4. Optimize your results.

If you follow the ViDA blog, you’re a step ahead. But there are countless tips to getting the best results. Tim gives some that we agree with too, including:

  • Rotate your profile photo.
  • Use direct subject lines for email.
  • Focus on volume, not chasing “the one.”
  • Continue to test and tweak, based on your results.

Read through the ViDA archives to learn more though. Here are some of our most popular posts to get your started:

5. Bow Chicka Wow Wow (or whatever you call dating).

If you’ve done your job well, in time you’ll be looking at a schedule full of dates. It’s your sweet reward for creating a system that both Tim Ferriss and our team at ViDA would be proud of.

So what are you waiting for? HotSnowboarderGirl22 and ScarlettJohanssonJr won’t be around forever.

Or if this sounds like more trouble than it’s worth, consider hiring our team of “online dating secretaries.” We’ll take care of everything for you, using a proven approach that has been helping our clients meet attractive women for years.

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