Becoming a Digital Alpha Male

Show HOT Women You’re NOT a “Just Be Friends” Kind of Guy

I would have his babies gifAnybody who’s done a bit of research on attracting hot women knows about the importance of being an alpha male.

The alpha male is the leader of the pack.  He’s the top-dog who tells all the others what to do.  When he walks into a room, his body language, the things he says, the things he wears, everything about him exudes the fact he’s the alpha male.

The alpha male is the groundbreaker, the provider, the decision maker.  He’s the protector.  He’s not a “just be friends” kind of guy; he’s the guy that feminine women want to be with.

You can read book after book about being an alpha male… listen to podcasts… study alpha males at the bar… and you can train your behavior so you too exude the kind of masculine sexuality that drives hot women nuts.  It just takes time, conviction, and patience to become that, especially for guys who naturally slouch, avert their eyes downward, and make apologetic statements.  Of course, you should do everything you can to become an alpha male, but it will take time.

How To Become An Instant Alpha Male

I'm kind of a big deal gifFortunately, when it comes to internet dating, you can become an alpha male immediately.  In fact, one of the biggest advantages of online dating is your ability to take action right away to showcase all your alpha male traits in your profile.   You can also pause to think about message responses – so you can bypass any kind of knee-jerk, non-alpha male conditioning that takes practice to overcome.

And what are the secrets to being an alpha male in the digital world?  Well, this wouldn’t all fit in a single article, but to keep it simple, I’ve got two words for you:  Stability & Excitement.

Show That You’re A Stable Man – A Provider

Stability is the idea you can provide for a woman and keep her babies safe, so they can grow up healthy and strong.  So many guys make the mistake of not talking about one of their best and most attractive assets for attracting women… which is a job and a steady income. 

Actually, a decent, dependable job is way more attractive to most women than a full head of hair and six pack abs.  So if you have a good income, don’t be shy about checking the box that shows your high salary – you’d be surprised how many women complete their searches with criteria that rules out men who don’t list their salaries.  Other things like travel and owning a boat can demonstrate you have a surplus income that’s ready to provide for her.

On the other hand, guys whose finances are not in the shape they’d like them in can portray themselves as an able provider by talking about their sporting ability, or the fact they have a plan for future success, or that they’re an energetic kind of go-getter when it comes to business pursuits, creativity and money making.


alpha male photo exampleThe next thing that’s just as important for women is the excitement factor.  An alpha male is exciting, unpredictable, and he follows his instincts toward the best possible outcome.  You can prove you’re an exciting kind of guy who hot girls want to be with through your pictures – where you’re doing fun things outside the house:  sporting events, parties, extreme sports… you get the picture.  Delete those boring shots of you playing video games on the couch.  They are NOT helping.

Tell a story in your profile – something exciting from your past that unpretentiously demonstrates the fact you like to grab life by the horns and never let up.  You want girls to see you seizing the moment in your descriptions and pictures… it’s a surefire way to make them want to seize hold of you so they can join you on your escapades.

CREATIVELY Show That YOU Are The Alpha Male Every Girl Wants You To Be

If you demonstrate the parts of your life where your stability and excitement are present in a creative way, you’ll be showing women that you are an alpha male while setting yourself apart from the countless boring men online.

So many guys say the same thing that it starts to get ridiculous.  Most girls may not even realize what’s going on, but they get an immediate sense of how boring a guy is simply because he sounds just like everybody else.  That’s because (even when men are aware that a girl wants stability and excitement), they usually describe themselves with adjectives alone.  Here’s an example:  “I’m a confident, laidback guy, who likes to go on adventures and spend time with my friends.  I’m looking for a nice girl to spend some time with.  If you like what you see, it would be great to chat.”

BORING…  A girl who sees this will immediately classify you into the “non-Alpha male” and “not interesting” category.   And it makes sense.  A girl can only read the same thing over and over again so many times before she gets completely sick of it.

match profile example with too many adjectivesSo you have to avoid adjectives.  Maybe you are intelligent, funny, have lots of friends, and adventurous…   Well, when you’re creating your profile, emailing women, texting, or even chatting on the phone – avoid those adjectives like the plague. 

Instead, tell STORIES that prove you’re that kind of man while allowing women to come to their OWN conclusions about the kind of amazing guy you are.  This gets the woman engaged in the process.  It will be much more exciting for her, and there’s a much better chance you’ll be seeing a lot more of her.

Once you start thinking this way, you’ll start to understand why other guys never get any responses, and why you have suddenly become the king of online dating.  But this isn’t to say that there aren’t a lot of different strategies to individualize yourself and make yourself stand out as an alpha male online – and depending on the type of girl you’re looking for, you may need to make adjustments for that.

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