Hinge has garnered a reputation amongst dating apps as being one of the better places to meet hot, eligible singles. The male/female ratio is about 50-50, and according to Hinge, 90% of users are between 23 and 36.
To increase your chances of turning your most attractive Hinge matches into a date, follow these 5 Hinge dating tips:
1. Don’t use all the allotted photo real estate
Hinge lets you post up to 16 photos on your profile. But just because you can, it doesn’t mean you should. The chances of you looking equally attractive in all 16 photos are slim to none – and it only takes one bad photo to make her move on to the next guy.
Instead, pick your best 5 to 7 photos, placing the most attractive ones near the front. Choose photos that highlight your interesting lifestyle and hobbies, and make sure you’re the center of attention in each one.
Check out this article full of essential tips on how to choose the best online dating photos.
2. Make the most out of your “About Me” paragraph
If you’re used to Twitter, 300 characters might sound like a lot, but it’s not much for a dating profile. Compared to OkCupid and Match.com, the “About Me” section on Hinge is super short, but resist the temptation to simply list personality traits or adjectives. You want your profile to snag her attention, and make her curious to know more about you.
Read this article for examples and tips for writing the perfect short “About Me” section, but in the meantime here are some proven profile styles that really work:
Over the top – embrace the ridiculous. Just make sure she can tell you’re joking. It shows you have a good sense of humor and a healthy amount of self-confidence. Try something like this:
Okay, how do I start this? How about a quick game of Two Truths & A Lie?:
- I BASE jumped from Dubai’s Burj Khalifa.
- I once tried a fried lizard in Asia. Tasted like popcorn.
- I bring my dog everywhere. Stores. Bars. The occasional executive-level meeting.
Okay – I cheated. They’re all true. Your turn…
Short and sweet – if done correctly, a super short profile can be a great way to showcase your creativity. But there’s a huge difference between creative and lazy.
Writing “Message me to know more” is boring and lame, but “I brake for butterflies” will make her smile. Guess which guy she’s much more likely to respond to a message from?
Down to Earth – because of the more serious tone, this style is best used for those looking for a long-term relationship. But serious doesn’t equal boring – she’s not on Hinge looking for that.
Make sure your profile covers all the traits she’s looking for in a suitable partner – stability, employment, etc, but describe yourself in an interesting way.
For instance, let’s say your profile says “I practice law, and in my free time I like to travel and exercise”. Good qualities, but there’s no sparkle – nothing that makes you stand out from all the other successful guys on the app.
Instead, try something more attention-grabbing:
Lawyer. World-traveler. Salsa dancer.
When the gavel comes down, the suit comes off and it’s time to have some fun. Hitting the ski slopes, flying to Mexico for cold cervezas and homemade tamales, or just relaxing on the beach…
Come along for the ride? Message me and let’s chat.
If your profile piques her curiosity she’s much more likely to respond to your message, or reach out to you initially.
Adventurous—who doesn’t love a bit of adventure? Show her life with you will be anything but boring by writing something like this:
Island hopping in the Bahamas, zip-lining through Costa Rica, or hitting Whistler for some snowboarding… I love meeting up with friends in far-off places to eat, drink and stay out way past our bedtimes.
Want in? Message me and let’s chat.
If you choose to go the adventurous route, make sure your photos back it up. You’ve heard the phrase “pics or it didn’t happen” – that’s true in online dating as well. If your profile isn’t consistent with your photos, she’s not going to trust you – or return your messages.
3. Make the first move and make it fast
Hinge is not the place to dawdle. Once a match is made on Hinge, you have a mere 24 hours to start a conversation before the match expires. But don’t message her immediately upon matching, you don’t want to look desperate, or like you’re always on the app. Wait 20 minutes to an hour or so, then send her a message.
Hinge recently tested a bunch of icebreaker messages to determine the best way to start a conversation on the app, and you can use the results to your advantage:
- Women are 40% more likely to respond to messages about food.
- 24 to 28 year olds responded more to messages referencing “lifestyle” topics. For instance:
Sunday priorities: exercise, sleep, or aggressive mimosas?
- For 29 to 24 year olds, the top-performing openers were personal questions, such as:
Two truths and a lie; ready, set go!
- And for those 35+, pop culture messages elicited the most responses. For example:
Katy Perry or Taylor Swift? This is *very* serious 😉
4. Ask her out sooner rather than later
Once you start chatting, the match expires in 14 days. You have two weeks to move things off the app or she’s gone forever. But if you ask her out too soon, you risk scaring her off. But wait too long and she’ll get bored and move on.
Here are some signs that indicate she’s into you, and will probably be open to meeting up or exchanging numbers:
- She’s putting some thought into her responses. If she’s sending you several lines instead of just yes/no questions, she’s interested.
- You’re getting lots of “lols” and emojis. This is the online equivalent of laughing at your jokes – always a good sign.
- She’s responding with questions of her own. She wants to learn more about you.
Confident men ask women out, and confidence is an attractive trait.
But always suggest a meet up rather than a date. “Date” is an emotionally loaded word, implying a large time investment on her part. “Meet up” is a more casual, less risky proposition she’s more likely to agree to.
5. Do less and date more
When it’s all said and done, there is only so much one guy can do. And unless you are willing to turn your dating life into a part-time job, you might find it hard to meet quality women in any reasonable amount of time.
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