Women take about 1/10th of a second to form an opinion of you based on your photograph. That’s literally a split-second decision to swipe left or right.
You need a strong photo – or ideally, more like 3 to 5 VERY strong ones.
To get her swiping right, read these Tinder profile tips for men and start attracting the women you want to date.
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#1 Choose your photos wisely – with female feedback!
Before going crazy on Tinder, the first thing you should do is get opinions from multiple women on your photos.
Ask your female friends to pick out their favorites. Even better, ask them to rank your best options from their favorite to least favorite. Then, use the ones that consistently rank the highest.
Another option is to upload your potential picks to a website like HotOrNot, and let the feedback roll in. The more women who chime in, the better. Select the most popular photos for your Tinder profile.
Finally, if you’re stuck between 2 to 3 potential options for your main Tinder profile pic, see how many right swipes (aka. Likes) it takes to get 10 (or 20) matches for each one. The one that racks up matches the quickest wins its spot in the primary position.
Always remember this:
You’re only as attractive as your worst photo.
Don’t shoot yourself in the foot by having 4 great photos, and then the one of you blackout drunk, dressed up as Wonder Woman on Halloween. Guess which one she’s going to remember right before she swipes left or “forgets” to respond to your icebreaker message?
Getting feedback from women on your photos is essential. Not only will it help you weed out the losers and pick your 3-5 best shots, but it also allows you to lead with your strongest one.
As long as you can browse the web and you’re able to count, you can do it. It’s easy, so unless you love spending your nights alone, there’s no excuse for having a terrible photo on Tinder.
Now that we’ve covered the importance of gathering opinions on your photos, let’s talk about the types of photos that commonly work well. These are the ones you should be searching your Facebook albums for, and taking more of over time as you strive to continually improve your photos and attract hotter women…
#2 Use an intriguing selection of pictures
Think of choosing photographs for your Tinder profile like marketing yourself. You want to highlight your best features – physical and otherwise.
Women are highly visual creatures, and with every photo you display, she’s going to imagine herself in that frame right next to you.
Play on her subconscious desires by showcasing your alpha male attributes – you’re confident, you’re active, and you look like someone she’d enjoy being around.
Here’s an example.
The photo on the left the beautiful rolling hills of a vineyard in the background, and you’re gazing off into the distance while enjoying a glass of red wine.
The photo to the right also involves alcohol, but it’s in a sweaty bottle and you’re surrounded by a rowdy crowd of your shirtless best friends horsing around at a BBQ.
Which photo would she rather imagine herself in, standing by your side and enjoying the lifestyle she’ll be experiencing with you?
Travel photos are great for this, but make sure to also include some taken closer to home. According to this study by Chemistry.com, 81% of singles want to see photos showing your everyday life.
So get her to swipe right by giving her an enticing glimpse into your daily lifestyle.
Outdoor shots are great – natural lighting makes you look better. A camera’s flash adds 7 years to your age, which isn’t going to do you any favors.
Hiking, surfing, riding your bike – the possibilities are endless. Pick out a selection you like and start gathering feedback.
What if all my photos suck?
If you aren’t getting good feedback on the photos you’ve chosen or you simply aren’t getting Matches, ask a friend with a good camera to help you out.
Consider doing your informal photo session during the Golden Hour – those minutes before sunset or just after dawn when the natural light is especially flattering.
You might want to consider using a pro photographer. No boring blue studio backgrounds, though. You want your pro shots to look natural, not staged.
For more great tips on how to take great online dating photos, check out this article.
How many photos should I use?
There’s no hard and fast rule for Tinder, but here at ViDA we’ve found using 3-5 photographs gets optimal results. While it’s hard to paint an exciting and well-rounded picture of who you are with less than 3 photos, it’s also not very common for you to look equally attractive in 6+ photos.
#3 Don’t neglect your profile text… it actually matters!
Even though Tinder is primarily photo driven, don’t miss an opportunity to intrigue her with your profile text.
It’s true that not many women read your profile before they swipe, but some women who are sitting on the fence trying to decide what to do will check it out. A great Tinder profile will get them eagerly hopping over to your side of the fence. A crappy profile will make them disappear over the other side forever.
And remember, your matches will virtually all be reading it when they get a message from you.
You need a witty, engaging profile to set yourself apart from the competition.
Profile writing is a little different on Tinder compared to more mainstream dating sites like Match. It’s bite-sized.
But what’s not as glaringly obvious is the fact you can get away with a lot more cocky/funny, over-the-top attitude on Tinder – so don’t be afraid to go bold. What you don’t want to be is boring.
A great Tinder profile has 3 key components:
- It’s interesting. You want to be irresistible in 500 or less characters.
- It’s not sleazy. Even if you’re only there to hook up, don’t advertise it. That’s not hot.
- It has a sense of humor. She'll remember a profile that made her laugh.
So keeping all that in mind, you’ll want to strike the right tone with your profile.
Virtual Dating Assistants has been helping men like you score dates on Tinder for a long time, and we’ve developed some profile styles that are guaranteed winners.
Here are 4 fool-proof profile styles that work:
“I am an astronaut. I’ve modeled swimsuits for GQ. And after learning to speak French, I became an international spy. So now, I travel the world on my private yacht, stealing classified secrets, and sipping martinis… shaken, not stirred.
…Okay, maybe I exaggerated a tiny bit 🙂
Message me for the whole truth. I’ll send you FB links, photos of exotic places, and much MUCH more…”
While ridiculous and obviously untrue, this style of profile works because it’s confident, memorable, bold, and a little bit cocky (but not in a serious way).
This is a great approach if you’re after women in their 20s. Women over the age of 30 tend to value maturity and dependability, so you’ll want to opt for another style if you’re going for older women.
Short and Sweet
“73% gentleman, 27% rogue.”
This type of short but intriguing profile sparks her interest and curiosity. When combined with compelling pictures, she’ll be swiping right to get to know you better.
“Now that I’ve sold my start-up, I’m free to pursue my other interests in life. Traveling the world, managing my investments, and sampling new hobbies. (Tango, anyone?) I’m looking for someone to join me on the adventure, wherever it leads us. Where do you want to go first?
Even on Tinder, the more serious, grounded profile has its place. If you’re looking to attract a more mature woman – and want The One rather than a hook up, this style works.
“Exploring the streets of Hong Kong at night. Hiking through the mountains of Colombia. Touring the vineyards of France. Let’s just say I don’t spend a lot of time in front of the TV. I’m too busy hunting down my next adventure. Next up: windsurfing lessons. Care to join? ”
Needless to say, adventure, intrigue and a little bit of danger is sexy. But if you opt for this type of profile, make sure your photos live up to the hype.
I’ve got matches, what’s next?
Now that you’ve created a magnetic Tinder profile, complete with awesome pictures, you might find yourself overwhelmed with attractive matches. Great problem to have, right?
Sure, but remember this – getting a match is only half the battle. You’ve still got to stand out from the competition with an engaging icebreaker and witty conversation to score her digits.
Swiping is quick and easy, but starting and maintaining a conversation can be time consuming. In fact, the NY Times reported the average Tinder user logs in 11 times a day, for a total of 90 minutes. That’s 10.5 hours a week – practically a part time job!
If you simply don’t have the time it takes to message all those women, or you’re not having much luck getting attractive women to respond to you, why not outsource Tinder?