The 13 Best Tinder Pick Up Lines

13 Best Tinder Pick Up Lines

To crush Tinder, you need the best Tinder pick up lines.

Have you started thinking that the more attractive a woman is on Tinder, the less likely she is to respond to your messages? It may seem like no matter how many openers you send out to your matches, it’s all crickets and tumbleweeds.

Talk about frustrating. She swiped right, and you’ve got some pretty good material – you’re not one of those guys who falls back on “Hey!” So what’s with the radio silence?

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Here’s your problem – why would she respond to your “pretty good” message, when she’s got dozens of other men with great material like this clamoring for her attention:


Attractive women can afford to be picky – they’re weeding through hundreds of messages from guys just like you. So if you don’t create something that immediately snags her attention and compels her to respond, she won’t.

And even if she does respond at first, she’s likely to stop responding to your messages before you get her number. Thanks to your boring conversation starter, taking things off the app is an uphill battle.

It’s always tough to know what to say to a beautiful woman.

And on Tinder, you’re expected to write her a clever message that makes you stand out from all the other guys. Meanwhile, she probably hasn’t written a single interesting thing in her bio that you can use to break the ice!

It’s not your fault that you weren’t born with the magical lines like this that get women ravenously responding to your Tinder messages:


Since I started Virtual Dating Assistants in 2009, my team and I have helped thousands of men like you take their approach from “pretty good” to “great” overnight. Getting more quality dates with the women you want to meet comes down to optimizing your profile and messages to the largest degree possible. That’s what we do.

And now, I’ve got the best 13 Tinder pick up lines for you right here – ready to copy, paste and send to just about any woman. Plus, I’ll let you in on the secrets behind why they work, so you can come up with some Grade A lines on your own. Class is in session!

 The Best Tinder Pick Up Lines Follow This Golden Rule

For a Tinder pick up line to be successful, you have to accomplish one thing:

Make her feel something.

If your message fails to trigger some kind of pleasurable emotional response, your response rate will plummet. This is why messages like “Hey, what’s up?” or “How was your weekend?” rarely compel attractive women to respond. The only thing you’ve made her feel is bored.

Your icebreaker message should ask a question that entices her, excites her, or gets her imagination flowing. If it’s fun for her to think about and answer, her mind has already associated you with positive feelings – and that kind of emotional connection is essential if she’s going to say “yes” to a date.

Put a smile on her face

Making her laugh is one of the best ways to spark an instant connection. In fact, research shows women are hard-wired to find funny men irresistible. But keep in mind, you have to actually be funny.

Not every guy can pull off humorous writing, so animated GIFs like the three examples above are a great way to make her chuckle. Tinder’s in-house data revealed that messages containing GIFs are 30% more likely to get a response, and the conversations last 2x longer. Don’t just send a random image, though. Pair a funny GIF with a message that ends with a question that makes it easy for her to respond.

You don’t have to rely solely on GIFs to bring the funny. These examples will get you thinking in the right direction:



If funny isn’t your thing, don’t worry. Humor isn’t the only way to win her heart.

Get her craving more

Hinge conducted an experiment and found women were 40% more likely to respond to messages about food:

BreakfastStyleMake sure to use delicious, mouth-watering words, though. Think along the lines of chocolate, wine, cheesecake… things that women tend to crave:

dessert compatibilitydark chocolate


Tantalize her imagination

If your message sparks a pleasurable daydream, you’re probably going to get a response. Travel is something most women enjoy thinking about, so it makes a great icebreaker topic:

3-day weekendFreeTrip


Get her talking about herself

Research shows that talking about yourself is inherently pleasurable. Self-disclosure stimulates the same areas of the brain that are associated with motivation and reward, so ask her a question about her personality:

spontaneousSunday priorities


Answering it will make her feel good, which is a point in your favor.

Make it seem tailored just for her

Women, especially the attractive ones, get bombarded with messages. She’ll think it’s a refreshing change to get one that seems written just for her. Of course, she doesn’t have to know that you send this same message to all the women who mention sports in their bios:


Having something in common increases attraction, since people tend to be more comfortable with other people who remind them of themselves. So if you share an interest that she’s mentioned in her profile text or included a photo of, take advantage of it by using it as your opener.

Hobbies and interests aren’t the only subjects you can target to make you messages seem tailored specifically to her. For instance, you could send this “personalized” message to any woman with an unusual name:


Make your messages age appropriate

Before you go nuts sending all these opening lines to everyone you’ve matched with, I should mention that different messages play better with different age groups.

In fact, Hinge’s research confirmed what our number crunchers here at ViDA already knew – taking her age into consideration when choosing what type of message to send pays off with higher response rates. They found that these opening lines worked very well for the specific age ranges they’re listed under, but didn’t always perform so well outside of those ranges:


Keep track of which lines work for you, and which don’t – especially when you start trying out your own material. A simple calculation will make it obvious which messages are keepers, and which ones are duds.

All you have to do is note how many times you send each message, and how many times it gets a response. (It takes a bit of dedication to keep track of each and every time, but the data is worth it, I promise).

Response Tracking ChartFiguring out the response rate is simple: it’s the number of replies/number of times sent. Use this response rate calculator, or keep track of it yourself in a simple spreadsheet.

So if these were your 11 icebreakers, you can see that 2, 3, 4, and 7 are keepers. And just as important, you know which low performers to scrap.

Remember, some messages work best for women in their lower 20s, and some for women in their upper 20s. What works for a cute 23 year old might cause a more grounded 29 year old who’s looking for The One to roll her eyes and move on.

Plus, the effectiveness of any given message depends on the guy who’s sending it out and the woman who’s reading it. Channeling your inner statistician is the only way to figure out which lines will work best for you, so go ahead and get your geek on.

The results may surprise you. When I first started testing out Tinder lines, I just knew that my favorite line “So tell me… is Jesus the only man in your life right now?” would wow the ladies. After all, it made my buddies chuckle. However, only 14 percent of women responded to it while the Jameson/beautiful bastard child example from above clocked in with a 76% response rate. That was surprising.

The morale of this story? Data-driven decisions are the best ones. Without testing, you’ll never find out which pick up lines have the most broad appeal, and are therefore the best use of your time.

If at first you don’t succeed…

Try again. Even the highest performing messages might not get a response every time, and the reason might have nothing to do with you. Maybe her meeting started back up, or she got sucked into a Game of Thrones episode. She’s got a lot of other things competing for her attention, so even dynamite icebreakers can get lost in the shuffle.

So if you don’t get a response to your first message, send her a follow up one. A light-hearted line that relates back to the original message lets her know you’re still interested, without seeming desperate. Something like this:


Or a stock line like this “cape and tights” one works for just about any occasion:

cape and tights

It only takes a few seconds to copy, paste, and send a follow up message. And while most women appreciate persistence, only send one. If she doesn’t bite after that, move on – no woman wants a Stage Five Clinger in her life. Besides, there’s no lack of beautiful women on Tinder!

Do you have a pick up line that Tinderellas can’t resist? Share it in the comments section below!

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