Struggling to write a dating profile that gets results? You’re not alone. Most guys find it difficult or frustrating to write about themselves, so taking the easy route with a two-liner like this can be pretty tempting:
However, if you’re looking for the total package, a short, boring profile like this isn’t going to cut it. The more attractive the woman, the fiercer the competition. You can’t step into the octagon with a B-team profile if you want to score dates with top quality women.
No pressure, right?
Don’t worry – you’ve got everything you need to write the perfect online dating profile right here in this article. When you read until the very end, you’ll get:
- A fool-proof profile formula that works like magic on any dating site or app
- Examples of what works and what doesn’t, so you don’t accidentally turn off women
- A fill-in-the-blank online dating profile you can use today to get more attractive women responding immediately
Congratulations – Your days of dating profile “writer’s block” are about to be over forever…
Start With The Basics
As with anything in life, when you build from a solid foundation, you get lasting results. Your profile is no different! Here at ViDA, we’ve been writing dating profiles (and handling everything else, too) for guys just like you since 2009, and we use all kinds of metrics to track the success of our profiles.
Our data shows the most successful online dating profiles are based on this simple formula:
Researchers recently confirmed what we’ve known for a long time – this formula really works. The combination of describing both who you are and who you’re looking for gets the highest response rate.
Let’s take a closer look at the anatomy of a perfect online dating profile. This example shows the 70:30 rule in action, and it has a solid framework you can follow to get awesome results:
The above example is written for a site like Match.com, where longer profiles are the norm. For online dating sites, a good rule of thumb is keep the length of your profile down to about 300 words or less. She doesn’t have time to read a novel, and you want to leave her wanting more.
You’re just four short paragraphs away from a polished, attention grabbing profile! Here’s a rundown of the framework you can follow to make this as easy as it can possibly be:
1st Paragraph: Catch Her Eye
The “intro” of your dating profile has two crucial goals:
- Attract her attention.
- Make her want to keep reading.
If you fail to do either of those two things, she’s instantly moving on to the next guy. But if she likes what she’s seeing, she’ll keep reading – and more importantly, she’ll be way more likely to respond to your message.
Open with an exciting travel story or a humorous anecdote that hints at your personality. In this example, the first line of this profile immediately gives her something pleasurable to visualize, so within the first couple words she’s already imagining her tropical vacation with you, filled with warm blue water and cute sea turtles.
And the entire first paragraph is packed full of attraction triggers. By the time she’s done reading it, she’s learned that you are adventurous, you’re in good enough physical condition to windsurf, you love to travel, and you’re financially able to swing a fabulous getaway – all without having to write “I love to travel” or “I’m adventurous, physically fit, and financially stable”.
Which brings us to the next Golden Rule of Profile Writing:
You want to highlight your most attractive traits, but you want to do it in a way that keeps her attention and sets you apart from the competition. She doesn’t want to read a boring list of adjectives, like what this guy wrote:
Total snooze fest.
It’s easy to say you’re adventurous, loyal, and fun loving. You need to give her a reason to believe it. Tell her a story that illustrates those qualities, and she’s more likely to be convinced you actually possess them. Remember, trust builds attraction, which increases the odds of her agreeing to meet you in person.
2nd Paragraph: Describe Your Occupation
Let’s face it – she wants to know what you do for a living, especially if you’re looking for a more serious relationship. If you’re a pilot, entrepreneur, or firefighter – congrats, according to Tinder you’ve got one of the top 3 most right-swiped (read: sexiest) jobs.
But for most of us, it takes a little creativity to make the hours we spend between 9 and 5 sound intriguing. Just saying “I work in [fill in the blank]” is boring and vague, and you definitely don’t want to mention anything negative about your job, like too much stress or the long hours:
Choose an aspect of your work that you’re truly happy about, and play it up.
As in the example above, adding the part about seeing vacant lots turn into shiny new homes gives her something she can emotionally connect with. If you just write “I’m a general contractor” and leave it at that, you’re missing an opportunity to forge that connection. And remember, the more positive feelings you can inspire, the higher the likelihood of her saying “yes” to a date.
3rd Paragraph: Paint A Picture Of Your Daily Life
Give her a glimpse of what being with you would be like. You’re active, fun, social – in short, you’ve got a fulfilling happy life and you happen to be looking for someone to join you in a few adventures.
Mention your hobbies, things you like to do with friends, etc, always keeping in mind that she’s going to be imagining what it’s like to spend time with you. Your profile should always be positive, this is no place to unpack your baggage from previous relationships or hint about how lonely you are:
4th Paragraph: Tell Her What You’re Looking For
You’ve introduced yourself in the first three paragraphs – now it’s time to describe your ideal woman.
Be honest about what you’re looking for, and feel free to set the bar high. Having high expectations exudes confidence, and confidence is an attractive trait. On the other hand, only talking about what you’re looking for in your bio, or being so vague and all-inclusive that you’re basically saying “I’ll date anyone” has the opposite effect:
Make sure to include a “call to action” at the end of this paragraph. That’s a fancy marketing term for telling your audience (in this case, the attractive women you’re looking to date) what you want them to do now.
In the example above, it’s “message me and let’s talk”. You could also challenge her to meet your standards with a question like “Think you’ve got what it takes? Send me a message and I’ll take it from there.”
Can’t Fail, Fill-In-The-Blank Profile
As promised, here are two instant profiles you can use right now, one for a site like Match.com, and one perfect for a dating app like Tinder. Just fill in the missing info and boom! It’s ready to adapt and upload to just about any dating site.
But one quick caveat… While you’d be hard-pressed to find better profile templates than these online, keep in mind they are still fill-in-the-blank profile templates. This means two things: First, if you use one of them, your profile could look strikingly similar to others in your local area, and that could obviously work against you. Second, a cookie-cutter profile is, by definition, going to be a bit generic.
The best profile in the world is so unique that it would be impossible for any other guys to use it. With that said, if you’re not planning to have us write a magnetically-attractive profile for you that makes you stand out like a sore thumb from all the other local guys, these templates are most likely a big step up from what you have now.
Online Dating Site “Fill-In-The-Blank” Profile
I know, I know… this ain’t your first rodeo. You’re too smart to fall for the outlandish claims made by some of the other profiles on this site. So I’ll give you a refreshing perspective – the truth:
[Something you do]. [Something else you do]. I’m an honest man, with a solid career and strong values. So while I could regale you with stories of my trips to [travel destination] or how I resemble [famous person]… I know that good communication is a foundation for every relationship, so if we’re on the same wavelength, read on…
Monday through Friday, I [sexy version of what you do for living]. So my average workweek involves [sexy daily work activity], [sexy daily work activity], and [sexy daily work activity]. I could tell you more, but I’m sure you’d much rather see the 367-slide PowerPoint I’ve prepared with all the juicy details… 😉
Outside of work, I keep plenty busy, whether I’m [hobby], [hobby], or [hobby]. When I travel, I love exploring [place you’ve been], especially the [something you particularly liked about the destination].
My ideal woman is [attribute you’re seeking], [attribute you’re seeking], and [attribute you’re seeking]. She’d rather be out [activity you want to share with her] than sitting at home on the couch, watching it on TV. And she doesn’t have to be the next [celebrity famous for doing something you enjoy], but it would be more fun if she also loves to [whatever hobby you enjoy].
Sound like you? Send me a message and let’s chat…
Completed, it will look something like this:
Mobile App Fill-In-The-Blanks Profile
[Hobby (i.e. Surfer)]. [Occupation (i.e. Tech entrepreneur). [Attractive quality (i.e. Frequent traveler). But when I’m done with work for the day, the computer powers down and it’s time for some fun – whether we’re [activity you enjoy], [activity you enjoy], or [activity you enjoy].
Want in? Message me & let’s chat.
Here’s what it might look like out in the wild:
So there you have it – examples of what to do, what not to do, and a plug-n-play profile you can use right now. You’ve got all the pieces you need to write an online dating profile that gets results – dates with the the attractive women you want to meet.
But what if you could just skip right to the “date” part? No profile writing, no back and forth messaging – just showing up to meet higher quality women than ever before? It’s actually that easy, when you have a ViDA in your corner.
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