Bumble aims to cut down on the number of sleazy messages women often get bombarded with on other mobile dating apps, so men can’t send the first message.
If you’re the guy whose standard approach to messaging consists of “Hey baby, nice ___” this probably isn’t the app for you. (And if you are that guy, you should definitely read this article for some Tinder pickup lines that actually work).
|Interesting Tidbit: After one of Tinder’s founders, Whitney Wolfe, filed a highly controversial sexual harassment lawsuit against Tinder and its parent company IAC, she decided to start a more “women-friendly” app.|
The just over $1,000,000 settlement and embarrassing scandal apparently wasn’t enough vindication for Whitney. She also decided to take a big bite out of Tinder’s market, and successfully built Bumble, one of its biggest competitors.
Don’t mess with Whitney. Tinder learned that lesson the hard way!
Here’s Where It Gets Interesting.
You can swipe right or left to indicate your interest level, and when you both swipe right a “connection” is made. Once that happens, the woman has only 24 hours to initiate a conversation or the match is lost.
The upside is… no more wasting time breaking the ice with women who aren’t going to respond. The downside is… you have to wait for her to make the first move. When she does send you a message, you only have 24 hours to reply to it, or the match automatically expires.
Upgraded members can extend the 24-hour match window, and re-connect with past matches for an extra 24 hours. But once both users have sent a message, there is no expiration date on the match.
Hopefully you’re really handsome and/or your photos/profile are awesome because you might be waiting for a long time (see: forever). And, unfortunately, that awesome opening line you’ve been crushing it with on Tinder isn’t going to help.
Some guys can do VERY well on Bumble. So if you’re fairly easy on the eyes , it may be worth trying out.
Like Tinder, Bumble allows you to search for matches based on distance, age range, and gender. Profiles can include up to six photos, a short About Me section, and some background information like education and job title.
If you can stomach the idea of waiting for her to make the first move, give Bumble a try… especially if you’re a reasonably handsome guy with strong pictures. It can be nice feeling like the pursued instead of the pursuer every once in awhile, and Bumble makes that possible!
Bumble is a completely free app.
Starting at $9.99 a month, you can upgrade to “Bumble Boost”, which gives you access to three premium features:
- BeeLine – this feature alone makes the low monthly cost worthwhile. In this section, you only see profiles of women who have already liked you, so a match is guaranteed. That will save you a ton of swiping time.
- Rematch – you can now reconnect with past matches for an extra 24 hours.
- Busybee – allows you to extend the 24-hour match window so you have more time for the conversation to get started.
If you buy a 3 or 6-month subscription, the price is discounted.
Get it here:
Reviews From Around The Web
Bumble seems to be a hit with single, professional women. A writer for InStyle.com said she really responded to Bumble’s women-in-control model:
“It forced me to focus on only the men I was actually interested in speaking with rather than the connections made while right swiping with reckless abandon.”
And NYC-based writer/blogger Tillie Adelson called Bumble a “win win” situation for men and women:
“Men are able to be confident when a woman reaches out to them and thus move faster towards an in-person interaction. Women can swipe right all they want then decide later if they really are interested and want to reach out. It’s a win, win and since everyone knows the rules of the Bumble game, it should alleviate any shyness the women have in terms of being the first to reach out.”
Men, on the other hand, gave it more mixed reviews. Writer Philip Wegmann said that while Bumble is a great hookup app, it’s not such a great way for women to find The One:
“But even if users do discover someone “relationship-ready,” they’re likely to be left unsatisfied. Why?
Because men too lazy to make the first move don’t buy flowers. They don’t plan picnics. They don’t remember anniversaries. They’re the wrong guy—the effeminate kind you’re embarrassed to introduce to your father or the rude kind you’re ashamed to meet your mother. So log out, bet on yourself instead, and recognize that there a still a few good men out there.”
On the other hand, freelance writer Alex Huss seconded the notion that having the woman break the ice on Bumble was a confidence booster for men:
“Let me let you in on a little secret, ladies: Men are far more inclined to pursue a relationship with a woman if we think she’s into it. And, to be even more honest, we typically can’t tell the difference between “playing hard to get” and “get lost.” To save our own pride, we usually assume it’s “get lost.” ”
Setting Up An Account
Once you’ve downloaded the app, your first name, age, occupation and education are pulled from your Facebook account.
You can add up to six photographs, and she has to scroll through all them in order to see your Bumble profile. You don’t want to lose her at your third shirtless mirror selfie, so make sure to choose strong pictures.
Select a range of photos that really showcases your lifestyle. She’s going to imagine herself with you as she’s scrolling through them, so you might want to get feedback on your photos from some female friends. Only use the pictures that they rank the highest.
Next up is the “About Me” section, and it’s short – 300 characters or less. That’s not a lot of space to grab her attention, so be creative. It’s worth filling out – if she’s wavering about which way to swipe based on your photos, a profile that makes her smile will make up her mind.
Click here for some tips on how to write an irresistible Bumble profile.
Before you can start swiping, you have to set your search criteria.
Your search is limited to distance, age range, and gender, so like Tinder, most of your matching is done based on photos. Once your criteria are set, you can start swiping. The app has an “undo” feature if you change your mind – just shake the phone and it undoes the swipe.
When you’ve both liked each other, a connection is made and the waiting begins. She has 24 hours to send you a message before the match expires. And remember – you only have 24 hours to respond to her message.
But if she doesn’t make the first move, all is not lost. Guys have the ability to extend the window of conversation for an additional 24 hours for one match per day. It’s kind of like the “Super Like” function on Tinder – it lets her know you really want to hear from her.
The more conversations you have, the more quickly you can earn a “VIBee” badge. This distinction basically certifies that you’re a real user, and that you positively contribute to the Bumble community.
Bumble’s algorithm tracks “good behavior”, such as what percentage of a user’s conversations are two-way and if there have been any complaints about spam or inappropriate messaging. Once you’ve achieved VIBee status, you can elect to only be matched with other VIBees.
Since the badge is only offered to users who are “deemed good members of the community”, limiting your dating pool to other VIBees could increase your results because you’re only matched with those who actively use the app. And if you run out of matches within the VIBee population, you’re automatically fed matches from the general pool of users.
As with any dating app, the goal is to move things off the app as soon as possible. Don’t wait too long to ask her out – you don’t want her to lose interest in the conversation and move on to the next guy. For some expert advice on when and how to get her to say “yes” to a meet up, click here.
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