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Best Places to Meet Women Online
According to Online Dating Magazine, 2,500 dating websites exist in the United States and 5,000 in the world. And this just includes the websites they knew about when generating these statistics a few years ago.
By now, there are definitely well over 5,000 dating websites – many fledgling, some established – as more people turn to online dating sites for romantic relationships. However, despite the large number of dating websites today, there only about 5 main categories that they all fall under:
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In this post, we’re going to give you the best sites that fall within these five categories. This way you won’t waste your precious time sifting through the thousands of unreliable, scammy sites that men get duped on daily.
Think of this page as your source for finding the perfect website for your present romantic needs and online dating endeavors. Whether you’re looking for a one-night stand, a girlfriend, or a wife, you can remain confident that the websites we list here are the places you want to be.
At times, you may even consider the act of finding women online “effortless.” Because when you’re on a dating website with women who have the same romantic interests as you, your profile will do most of the legwork for you. You’ll just have to carry on the conversation and seal the deal. And with the advice on our blog, sealing the deal will become just as easy as attracting women to your profile and inspiring them to respond to your messages.
Mainstream Online Dating Sites
If you’re looking to meet a woman, your best place to start is a mainstream dating website. Mainstream sites cater to a huge percentage of the population, so whether you’re a twentysomething looking for a casual short-term relationship or a fortysomething searching for a wife, it pays off to check out some of these websites:
OkCupid.com: This is the go-to site for anyone under 40. Created by a bunch of young dudes (and yes, we do mean “dudes,” not “men”), OKC boasts a casual, “we’re all at the same party” vibe, even though it attracts serious daters too. Regardless of what you’re looking for – a one-night stand or a girlfriend – you can potentially find it on OKC. However, if you’re 40+ and looking to get serious with a woman in your age range, you might want to steer clear of this millennial-choked website. If you do choose to use the site, keep your profile and your communication cool and casual, not formal or stuffy. We heard a rumor that young people just ain’t about that life.
Match.com: Though Match.com and OKC are owned by the same people, you’d never know it. Unlike OKC, Match is a paid site – which means that the quality of women is automatically going to be higher. Additionally, the women will be more serious – most people don’t pay an exorbitant monthly sum just to troll for one-night-stands. (If you’re into that, though, skip ahead to our section on adult dating sites… and possibly recalibrate your idea of a good relationship.) But if you’re in the market for more than just a fling, check out Match.com. It’s less “fun” than OKC, but if you’re tired of one-night-stands who never call, that can be a good thing. Get a Match.com 3-day Free Trial today.
PlentyofFish.com: As its name suggests, this website has an enormous database of women. With three million active daily users and fifty thousand new singles signing up every day, POF is guaranteed to have everything and anything that you’re looking for. Best of all, it’s totally free – which means there’s no commitment or obligation if you want to covertly scope out the women in your area before creating an elaborate profile. As on all free sites, the quality of women and profiles on POF can vary wildly, so be aware that you’ll be spending a lot of time sifting through profiles before you find what you want.
DateHookUp.com: Like POF, DateHookUp is a free website that boasts a wide selection. In fact, their (grammatically questionable) website promises a database of “all kinds of attractive single women and men: Christian singles, Catholic, Jewish singles, sexy women, cute guys, single parents & more…” Like any free site that offers a wide selection, DateHookUp often prioritizes quantity over quality, so be prepared to sort through lots of profiles before you find the “cute guy” or “sexy woman” of your dreams.
Relationship Online Dating Sites
If none of the above work for you, or if you’re looking to supplement these sites with a forum for the marriage-minded, we suggest checking out these two websites:
eHarmony.com: eHarmony draws on social psychology and detailed questionnaires to determine compatibility. This is a paid site, which means that everyone on here is serious about finding their perfect match. Though eHarmony claims to be responsible for 4% of US marriages in the past few years, it’s fairly annoying to work with, as it pre-selects matches for you based on your answers to an online questionnaire. If you’re more interested in chemistry than so-called compatibility determined by a computer, you might want to skip this one.
Chemistry.com: Like eHarmony, Chemistry.com relies on a psychologist-created personality test that determines what you’re like and who you’re compatible with. Again, this is a paid site that attracts women who are looking for something very serious. Unlike eHarmony, Chemistry tracks your activity, offers step-by-step evaluation, and creates an “activity plan” so you can find the right woman. Find Chemistry, Free for 14 days!
Niche Online Dating Sites
If you’re a passionate Christian/mountain biker/ bookworm/[insert interest here], and you’re looking for someone who shares your interest and/or lifestyle, you might want to give a niche site a try. There are countless niche sites out there so do some searching around Google to find the one that's just right for you. Here are just a few examples:
ChristianMingle.com: This is the best-known website for serious marriage-minded Christians. Not every person on here is necessarily a “Bible-thumper,” but for those who are passionate about their religion and seeking a partner to build a Christian home with, this is a great option. The profiles on this website range from extremely fervent to more laid-back, so if you’re a Christian, chances are you’ll find something appealing here.
TrekPassions.com: Though it sounds like a website for avid mountaineers, TrekPassion.com is in fact the #1 forum for Trekkies and other Sci-Fi lovers to meet and mingle. If you’re unusually passionate about sci-fi and fantasy, this free site offers discussion boards, chat, and the chance to connect with the fangirl of your dreams. Perhaps unsurprisingly, the people on this site might not be as conventionally attractive as they are on other sites.
PositiveSingles.com: This is the largest website for singles living with STIs, including herpes and HIV. It’s free to join, 100% confidential, and an important forum for those who are living with a sexually transmitted infection. Whether you’re looking for a life partner who won’t be put off by your STI, or just a little emotional support, you just might find it among the 15,000 daily active members.
International Online Dating Sites
Whether you’re an expat, a polyglot, a travel aficionado, or just have a thing for women of a certain ethnicity, you might want to check out some of these websites. Since international dating websites tend to be among the scammiest corners of the Internet, go with a site owned by Cupid Media – the most trustworthy international dating site conglomerate that we’ve found. For a full list of their services, click here. All of the following websites belong to Cupid Media …
ColombianCupid.com: This website boasts a selection of 1 million Colombian singles. So whether you’re looking to date while in Colombia or you just want to work on your Spanish with a woman who escaped from the FARC, this free-to-join site can provide. Though joining the site is free, some features are only available if you pay – so be sure to browse before you commit to anything. Though Cupid Media is fairly trustworthy, remember that you’re on the Internet looking for Third World women, so be careful of catfishers and scammers.
UkraineDate.com: Part of the Cupid network of niche dating sites, UkraineDate offers a wide selection of Ukrainian women. If you’re a Ukrainian expat looking for a girl of your dreams – whether she’s in Kharkov or Coney Island – you just might find her here. If you’re not Ukrainian but are captivated by these Eastern European beauties, be prepared to deal with the many scammers who hide out among the good girls just looking for love.
FilipinoCupid.com: Much like ColombianCupid and UkraineDate, FilipinoCupid attracts singles of a specific ethnicity and those who love them. Whether you’re in Manila or Manhattan, if you’re looking for a Filipino woman, she might just be on FilipinoCupid. Again, this site is free to join, but the more interesting features (like chat) come with a price tag.
Adult Online Dating Sites
If you’re looking for something more physical than emotional, you might want to check out some “adult sites.” A word of caution: Though these sites claim to offer a wide selection of people looking for adult fun, we urge you to be careful. Most of these profiles are fake. If you’re really looking for no-strings-attached fun, try Tinder or OKCupid instead, and if you’ve got a fetish, try FetLife. It is the RARE man who finds legal, willing sex on the following adult sites. Most people will find catfishers and scammers instead.
AdultFriendFinder.com: This website claims to offer a wide selection of women who are DTF. Though it’s free to join, actually talking to anyone requires you to open your wallet. We don’t recommend using this website, as it’s cluttered with softcore porn and scammers.
Fling.com: Like AdultFriendFinder, this website promises to find you a hookup tonight, but covers its bases by also offering adult chat/webcams for the very likely possibility that you won’t actually find a flesh-and-blood woman to have sex with. Be warned: these webcam chats come with a fee, so if you’re not interested in paying for sex, try Tinder instead.
BeNaughty.com: Unlike AdultFriendFinder and Fling, this site isn’t cluttered with softcore porn. BeNaughty offers cybersex—or, in its own words, “flirty online chat.” Joining is free, but the actual chatrooms come with a price tag –and the strong possibility that the 24-year-old nubile nurse you’re chatting with is actually a 50-year-old truck driver who lives in his mother’s basement.
If You Know Where to Go, Meeting Women Online is Easy
Whether you’re looking for Ms. Right or Ms. Right Now, this extensive list of sites should have you covered. By now, there is no stigma associated with meeting the girl of your dreams online, whether you found her on OKCupid, UkraineDate, or a Star Wars fan forum. After all, one third of married couples in the US have met online.
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