Scott Valdez Dishes The Dirt On How To Get Her To Respond To Your Message, And Keep Her Interested, Excited – and ADDICTED.
I’d like to share some ACTUAL first messages that men have sent to female clients of ours (real names and numbers removed):
Just wanted to say hello and i am sure that you get a ton of emails on here because you are very very beautiful. Not sure if you get complimented on all the time but i really love your eyes, very beautiful. Anyways I don’t want to give you too many compliments in the first email 😉 but I just wanted to say hey and would love to chat with you. Think we would have a lot of fun together and from reading your profile, we have a lot in common. Give me a call or text and let’s chat. Maybe we could meet for some drinks this week 🙂 really looking forward to hearing from you John 555-555-5555
Hi Beautiful Lady,
I wanted to tell you…. I saw your profile last weekend and was just thinking of you!!!!!!
How are you? I think you are a very beautiful, and lovely looking woman. my name is Michael I’m Italian and I live in Belleville N.J. I am a genuine gentleman with class and charm, I know there isn’t many guys out there left that knows how to appreciate a woman like myself. I am an honest, sincere, and loyal guy who knows how to love, treat, and respect a lady. I am a family oriented guy and I am interested in getting to know you. All i ask is that you please send me a reply message, I would love to hear from you. Thank you, and have a nice day.
We obviously did not respond to these guys on behalf of our female clients… they wouldn’t want to meet these guys, who should instead be flogged for being outrageously terrible at meeting women online (as should 95% of men).
Sometimes we guys don’t even understand and take into account the objectives of the first email message.
It’s not to talk about yourself – she already has plenty of information to read about you in your profile.
It’s not to shower her with a ton of compliments – she’s heard them a thousand times, and by complimenting her, you’ve just made yourself look like another sausage in the bucket!
It’s definitely not to ask her for her number or to meet you for a date – she’s not going to feel comfortable with moving things offline before she gets to know you better, and you don’t want to give her the impression that you’re desperate to meet anyone with a decent profile that doesn’t reject you.
Your first message to a woman should aim to accomplish three main objectives:
- Compel her to open your message.
- Make her interested enough to read your profile.
- Get her to respond positively to your message.
Keep your first message brief. You can accomplish all three of these objectives in four to eight lines….
Find an element in her profile that you can use to build a connection (and prove you actually looked at more than her pictures), and ALWAYS end with a question, ideally one that will make her think (but not too much) and stimulate her imagination. Of course, you must include a subject line that’s intriguing enough that her curiosity can’t stop her from opening your message, but you can learn more about that and writing effective initial contact emails in my proven Click Magnet Dating System. Check it out RISK FREE for 30 days…