Struggling to come up with the perfect profile to attract women?
You’re not alone. Most men have a very hard time writing about themselves in a way that women find irresistible. The majority never will.
And whether it’s Tinder, Bumble, CoffeeMeetsBagel, Match.com, POF, OkCupid, MillionaireMatch or one of the many others, your dating profile is truly make or break.
Write the wrong thing, and you’re doomed to fail, with your empty inbox serving as a constant reminder that your profile’s problematic. On the other hand, when you write a compelling profile, you can watch messages from high-quality women pile up in your inbox, and fill your dating calendar like clockwork.
If you’d like to experience that for yourself, you’ve come to the right place. You’re just about to see 8 irresistibly attractive online dating profile examples for guys that you can use today!
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There are 100s of online dating sites and apps out there, but what reels in the ladies on Tinder can torpedo your chances on Bumble. So we’re not only giving you incredible profile examples you can use, we’re also telling you which dating site or app they work best on.
Let’s get started!
In general, profiles on dating apps are much shorter than profiles for online dating sites like Match. Tinder’s character limit is 500, and on many apps profiles are even shorter than that.
While it’s tempting to skip writing anything at all and just rely on your awesome pictures, why miss the chance to win her over?
If she’s hesitating to swipe right based on your looks alone, she’ll use your profile to make up her mind. Virtually all women will read it before responding to your message.
Epic Tinder profiles have three things in common:
- They snag her attention
- They keep it clean (sleaze doesn’t play well, even on Tinder)
- They make her laugh, or at least crack a smile
You can get away with more exaggerated humor and funny/cocky attitude on Tinder than you can on other apps and dating sites. So this is your chance to get creative and have a little fun. Here’s an example that really works:
|“Humorous, Over-The-Top” Profile for Tinder|
“I am a rocket scientist. I’ve appeared on the cover of GQ – twice. And after mastering Italian, I became an international super spy. Right now, I’m yachting my way across the Caribbean, stealing top-secret information, and sipping martinis… shaken, not stirred.
…Okay, fine. I exaggerated *just* a smidge. But I do like a good martini and I got a B+ in my 5th grade science class. Message me for more straight talk, and I’ll send you FB links, photos of science fair trophies, and much MUCH more…”
And if you really want to rise above the competition, try a Tinder profile like this:
|“You Want Some of This?” Profile for Tinder|
Surfer. Tech entrepreneur. Frequent traveler. By day I run my investment company. But when the market closes, the suit comes off and it’s time for some fun – whether we’re hitting Aspen’s slopes for a weekend trip, catching a live rock concert, or headed to Paris for some fresh-baked croissants and the best espresso on the planet.
Wanna join? Message me & let’s chat.
(For even more fool-proof Tinder profile examples, click here.)
On Bumble, only women can send the first message. So your profile needs to stand out from all those other guys if you want her to send a message your way.
Bumble mainly attracts women in the 25-35 age range who are intelligent and successful. It’s been marketed as a “woman-friendly” alternative to Tinder, so you definitely want to keep your profile classy to be successful on this app.
Bumble’s 300 character or less limit means you have to make a big impact in a short space. Highlight all your most attractive traits, whether that’s your job, your hobbies, or your love for travel.
But the key here is Show, Don’t Tell. This rule holds true for any type of profile.
She doesn’t want to read a boring list of adjectives. So don’t tell her that you’re adventurous, loyal, fun, and curious about the world. Nothing about that sentence will hold her interest; she’s already rolled her eyes moved on to the next guy by the time she got to “fun”.
Show her what you’re like instead by giving specific examples of things you’ve done that illustrate qualities like “adventurous”:
|“Show, Don’t Tell” Profile for Bumble|
Kitesurfing in Morocco. Hiking a summit trail. Playing my guitar with my closest friends. It’s not a proper weekend if your heart isn’t beating a little faster, right?
Monday through Friday, I manage my business, but when the weekend rolls around… it’s time to play.
Maybe you can join… message me, and let’s talk.
(For even more Bumble profile tips, check out this article.)
CoffeeMeetsBagel feeds users just one match per day, so she’ll definitely peruse your profile. And the clock is ticking – she’s only got 24 hours to “like” you. You really need to bring your profile writing A-game to this dating app.
The women you’ll find on CMB are typically sophisticated, young professionals who are looking for a relationship. The over-the-top attitude you can get away with on a more casual dating app like Tinder can be a turn-off on CMB if women think you’re not taking the app seriously.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t be funny or creative when answering CMB’s three profile questions: “I am…”, “I like…” and “I appreciate when my date…”
The “Show, Don’t Tell” rule still applies, and now we’re going to add another one: The “70/30” rule. On longer profiles, you want 70% of it to be about you, and 30% of it to describe what you’re looking for. CMB profiles lend themselves naturally to this, since the entire last question is all about your dream woman.
Here’s an example to illustrate both rules in action:
|“Fool-Proof” Profile for CoffeeMeetsBagel|
What happens in Venice, stays in Venice
…Just your typical gentleman / adventurer. Eating seared scallops in Marseille, enjoying beach days in Capri, or taking last-minute trips to Brazil… While I can’t compete with Andrew Zimmern’s travel schedule, my passport does have a stamp or two.
During the week, I’m an engineer. I’m sure you’d love to hear all the ins-and-outs of my typical day… but I’ll spare you the 169-slide PowerPoint will all the details. For now. 😉
When the weekend rolls around, you’ll find me hiking in the mountains with my German Shepherd, swimming a few laps at the gym, or checking out a live concert with friends. And I’m super close with my two brothers, so we grab dinner or drinks together a few times a month.
1) My family and all our crazy traditions
2) Spotify, the soundtrack to our lives
3) Catching 6-foot waves on my surfboard
4) Craft beer
5) Tapas bar happy hours with friends
6) A fresh-pulled espresso
I Appreciate When My Date…
…Is admired for who she is, not just her shiny necklaces or designer shoes. She’s creative, thinks for herself, and speaks her mind. She’s happy grabbing dinner down at the Pier, taking a weekend trip to Cabo, or just staying in to read a good book.
If this sounds like you, message me & let’s chat.
(For everything you need to know about meeting high-quality women on CoffeeMeetsBagel, click here.)
Match is one of the most popular mainstream online dating sites, and it’s a great place to meet attractive, intelligent women. But since it’s so popular among successful, career-driven singles, your profile is up against a lot of competition.
We know a lot of tricks that will triple your response rate on Match, but in order for those to pay off, your profile needs to stand out from the crowd:
|“Attention-Grabbing” Profile for Match.com|
In my own words
Imagine scuba diving off the coast of Aruba, snorkeling with manta rays and sea turtles, windsurfing, and book-reading on the beach with your favorite people. Yes, I love stepping off a plane in the tropics, which is why I’m Caribbean-bound as often as possible. It’s not always blue waters and rum runners served in coconuts though… So if we hit it off, remind me to tell you about the time I came face to face with a 7-foot sand shark…
Monday through Friday, I’m a general contractor. It’s rewarding to solve real-world problems and see big vacant lots turn into shiny new homes. But my favorite part is driving past an old job site and seeing a happy family playing in the front yard.
Balance is important to me. At the end of the work day, I like hitting the gym for a few laps in the pool or knocking out my free weight routine. After, I might call up some friends and throw an impromptu BBQ, complete with fresh steaks and my almost-famous potato salad. It pairs nicely with a decent bottle of wine…
As for you… I’m attracted to intelligent, creative, and kind women. You like being outside, and spontaneous trips to far-off countries. And you don’t have to be the next Julia Child, but it’d be more fun if you enjoy experimenting in the kitchen as well.
If that sounds like you, message me and let’s talk 🙂
POF (PlentyOfFish.com) is one of the most popular free online dating sites out there, with one of the largest user pools. But to attract the pretty fish, your profile needs to be tantalizing bait. (And it helps to know all the Advanced Search hacks, too).
The good news is, you can reuse the “In My Own Words” section of your Match profile on your POF profile. There’s no need to reinvent the wheel – when you’ve got something good, roll with it.
There is, however, the prominently displayed “First Date” section and you need to knock it out of the park. Anyone can suggest dinner, a movie, meeting for coffee, etc… but why do what everyone else is doing?
Capture her imagination with something so over the top she can’t help but be intrigued, and then suggest the more mundane ‘cup of coffee’ at the end. Here’s an example of a first date idea that’s sure to get her smiling:
|“First Date” Example for POF|
We hop on a jet to Cape Town and ride the tram all the way up Table Mountain. After taking in the incredible views, we’ll explore the city with our own private tour guides, President Zuma and Charlize Theron.
As night falls we’ll go to a cozy bistro and share spicy Cape Malay chicken curry by candlelight, talking till closing time.
…Or we could grab coffee locally. Your call. 🙂
OkCupid is a melting pot of all different types of women, from “alternative” types to hipsters and nerds and everything in between. For maximum success, you want your OkCupid profile to appeal to a broad range of women, because “hot” comes in all categories.
The profiles on OkCupid are broken down into several sections, the most difficult of which to write are the “Self Summary” and “What I’m Doing With My Life” sections. This is where you’ll spend the most time, since the others pretty much write themselves.
|“Mass Appeal” Profile for OkCupid|
Let me guess…
You're smart. This ain’t your first rodeo. And you’re not about to fall for the preposterous claims made by so many of the profiles on this site. So here’s a refreshing perspective – the truth.
I pay my mortgage. I wear socks that match. I’m an honest man, with a decent career and strong values. So while I could regale you with stories of my trips to Paris or how I resemble Ryan Gosling… I know that good communication’s a foundation for every relationship. So if we’re on the same wavelength, read on…
What I'm Doing With My Life
Monday through Friday, I manage operations for a big tech company. So my average workweek involves leading teams, crunching numbers, and running meetings. I could tell you more, but I’m sure you’d much rather see the 367-slide PowerPoint I’ve prepared with all the juicy details… 😉
Outside of work I keep plenty busy, whether I’m getting my heart rate up on trail runs, or throwing juicy burgers on the BBQ with friends. When I travel, I love exploring the open air markets of Madrid, and I know enough Spanish to *almost* pass for a local.
(For even more OkCupid profile tips that will help you crush the competition, check out this article.)
MillionaireMatch boasts some of most beautiful women and highest response rates of any website we’ve tested. If you’re in the right tax bracket for this type of site, it’s a must use.
As with any “exclusive” dating site, you’ll want to showcase your best assets in your profile, because the most beautiful women on the site have their pick of men. You want to look like an attractive prospect in more than just your photos.
Here’s how to do it right:
|“Irresistible” Profile for MillionaireMatch|
I predict the future, but I don’t need tarot cards, a crystal skull, or tea leaves to do it. And a reading will cost you just a bit more than $3.99 a minute… Yes, I’m a financial advisor on Wall Street, so keeping my finger firmly placed on the pulse of the stock market is my bread and butter.
I’m definitely not all work/no play though. My career takes me all over the world, so I’ll make time to explore the glittering streets of Hong Kong, sample the creamy gelatos in Italy, and haggle in the street markets of Rio. But most of the time I’m happiest here in good ol’ Seattle. You can’t beat the fresh seafood and craft beers, plus it’s got some of the best paddle boarding on the planet, even if it is a little chilly. And don’t even get me started on all those mountain views…
As much as I love the city, beautiful weekends are made for rounding up friends and hiking on Mount Rainier. We haven’t spotted Bigfoot yet, but we’re still looking. And when it’s cold out, we’ll head for Whistler’s ski slopes – or Hawaii’s just a short flight away. Wanna join?
(For more tips on attracting beautiful women on MillionaireMatch, go here.)
But having the perfect dating profile is just the first step in the process. Once you’ve got her attention, you need to keep it. If your messages suck, it doesn’t matter how good your profile is… you still won’t meet the women you deserve.
Beginning to sound like a lot of work? It is. In fact, the average online dater spends 11.9 hours per week on dating sites (according to academic research). Part time job? You bet!
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