7 Best Dating Sites For Men Over 40

If your waitress was on roller skates the last time you went on a date, the world of online dating might seem vast and hopeless. You may even be wondering if online dating is only for the under 30 crowd, but in reality it’s becoming increasingly popular with singles of all ages. And some experts say your 40+ years might just be the ideal time to find love.

But finding love is much easier when you look in the right places. Start your search here, with one of the 7 best dating sites for men over 40:


One of the most popular dating sites out there, Match.com is a good place to get your online dating feet wet. The site claims almost 50% of their members are 30-49 years old, and 26.5% are 50+.

Match charges a monthly fee, which means you are more likely to find women there who are serious about meeting someone.

Quick Search Tip: You don’t want to waste time messaging women who haven’t even logged into their accounts within the last week. Use the search filters on these dating sites to sort the profiles by last login date so you can focus most on those who are Online Now or were online within the last 24 hours.

Because Match.com is such a large site, the competition for the most attractive women will naturally be fierce. Because of this, it’s crucial that you use photos showing you in your most attractive light, and you invest time in writing an attention grabbing profile that will set you apart from those other guys.


OkCupid is another good place to start. It’s free and very popular, which is an especially important consideration if you’re not in a mega city like New York or Los Angeles. The membership demographics tend to be on the younger side of things, so it’s an excellent place to start if you’re looking to meet younger women in their late 20s or early 30s.

That said, there are plenty of women of all ages on OkCupid and it just takes a few minutes to open an account and have a look around. If you like what you see, then you will need to create a profile for this site and answer dozens of their quirky “Questions.”

The questions can be a bit tedious and random, but answering just requires checking a box. Then you choose which answers you will accept in a match. For instance, one of the questions is “Have you smoked a cigarette in the last 6 months”. Then you can specify how you want your match to respond – “yes”, “no”, or “any of the above”, and there’s also a short text box if you’d like to elaborate on your response.

The more questions you answer, the higher your match score with another user can be. But don’t just select “any of the above”, because that basically voids the answer when it comes to increasing your match score.

Because it’s free, anyone—including the barefoot lady selling hemp bracelets on the corner—can have a profile on OkCupid. But since it’s such a well-known site, it attracts enough educated, beautiful women to keep your calendar jam-packed with high-quality dates. It may take slightly longer to find them than on Match.com, but they’re there.

By upgrading your account to a paid monthly “A-List” membership, you can access features like invisible browsing (so she won’t see you visited her profile AGAIN), advanced search filters (including one that allows you to only see the most attractive users in your results), and notification of women who “like” your profile.

The bells and whistles are worth the ~$20/month investment, because they allow you to quickly and efficiently identify quality matches and message multiple women in a short amount of time.


PlentyOfFish is one of the biggest free dating sites. It has the same drawbacks as OkCupid, but the sheer number of active local users makes it worth checking out. You can also upgrade to a paid monthly membership, starting around $7 a month.

Paying the monthly fee gives you several benefits, including showing up first on “Meet Me”, where she can say “yes” “no” or “maybe” in response to your photograph. You can also see the date and time that she checked out your profile, and your profile will stand out in search results.

You’ll definitely want to invest some time in screening profiles, and the best way to do that is by using the site’s detailed search function. For some great POF tips and tricks, click here.


If you’re successful and well established, chances are you’ll get good results on MillionaireMatch. The site draws an elite pool of interesting, beautiful women who are looking for a guy like you.

Because the women on this site expect to date the cream of the crop, you’ll want to put some extra time into your profile. Click here for essential tips on how to write a successful profile for millionaire dating sites.

Although it advertises itself as a site that matches millionaires, you’ll find plenty of non-millionaire women as well, and it claims to have over 2 million members. At $210 for 6 months, the price is higher than some other sites but the women you’ll meet are generally worth the investment. The quality is there, so check it out.


SugarDaddie matches successful men with attractive young women. And while many of those women are seeking a “mutually beneficial” arrangement, you’ll also find beautiful women looking for long-term relationships.

Although overall the site isn’t as classy as MillionaireMatch, both men and women pay to send/receive messages. The fee cuts down on the number of fake profiles and scammers that tend to proliferate on “seeking arrangement” type sites.


For those who practice Christianity (or were at least raised in a Christian home), ChristianMingle is where you should go to meet high-quality women with similar values. It’s the most popular dating site for marriage-minded Christians, which makes it an excellent place to start if you’re looking for a serious relationship.

The members on this site range from devout to casual, but most importantly, the quality level is high and the women are responsive. Plus, women tend to outnumber men on the site, and plenty of them are in their 30s and up.

Because it’s a niche dating site and your user pool could be limited in size if you’re not living in a big city, you’ll generally want to use it in addition to at least one mainstream site like Match.com, OkCupid or POF.


JDate is another popular faith-based online dating site that attracts successful, high-quality women.

Because it’s a niche site, you won’t find as many users as you would on a mainstream site like Match or OkCupid… but if you know you want a nice Jewish girl who makes a mean matzo ball soup, you don’t want to skip JDate.

Their profile questions are a bit more philosophical than what you’ll find on most other sites, so you’ll need to put some thought into answering questions like “What is your perception of the ideal relationship?” Click here for some tips on how to write a JDate profile that will catch the eye of your dream woman.

HThese 7 dating sites are the best places to start your online dating adventure when you’re 40+. But if you’re curious about one that’s not on this list, check out this article for tips on how to tell if an online dating site is worth your time.

You may be wondering why OurTime.com didn’t make the cut as one of our “7 Best Dating Sites For Men Over 40.

We’ve found that a very high percentage of OurTime users are already on Match.com. Both sites are owned by the same parent company, and Match.com is OurTime’s primary marketing outlet for recruiting new members.

So paying for both of these sites isn’t the best investment. And, as it turns out, Match.com has the larger volume of 40+ year-old users.

But remember, choosing a dating site is actually the easy part. Next comes picking out your best photos, writing your profile, and crafting witty messages that will make her want to respond to you.

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