5 Reasons Your Online Dating Profile Sucks (And How To Fix It)

You’ve been on Match for months now, but still no dates. Can’t figure out what you’re doing wrong? Don’t worry – we’re here to help.

Here are 5 reasons your dating profile sucks, and how to fix it.

1. You don’t have a photo.

silhouette-malePlenty of guys are still making this basic mistake, and it’s costing them dates.

Many online dating sites like Match.com won’t include profiles without a photo when women do a search. Other sites have an options users can select when they only want to see profiles with at least one picture in their search results.

So if your profile doesn’t have one, you’ve made yourself invisible to all those women. And the women you message are likely to assume you’ve got something to hide when they can’t see your face.

According to Match.com, having a photo creates 15 times more interest in your profile so it’s worth it to post a few. We recommend choosing 3-7 strong pictures.

Portraying multiple sides of your personality is difficult with fewer than three photos, and chances are you won’t look equally attractive in more than 7. One bad photo is all it takes to make her lose interest, so choose wisely.

Need more help picking out online dating photos? Click here for 21 awesome photo tips that will get you more dates.

2. Your photos are weak.

On the plus side, a profile with terrible pictures will at least show up in search results. So bad photos are better than no photos. But to score dates with attractive women, you’ve got to do better than that.

You don’t need to look like Ryan Reynolds to have photos that appeal to women – you just need to know where to start.

    • Hire a professional photographer. But don’t pose in front of a boring studio background – you don’t want anyone to KNOW you hired a pro, right? Have the pictures taken outside, preferably during the “golden hour”. The warm, golden light during the 60 minutes right after sunrise and just before sunset makes everyone look their best.
    • ATVBe in your element. Have a friend with a good camera snap a few pics of you doing something you love. Maybe it’s tossing a football or Frisbee around, riding your motorcycle, or hanging out at the lake. Remember, a woman will picture herself by your side when she’s looking at your photos. Be interesting, because that’s attractive. Your online dating profile is like a marketing campaign, so choose photos that highlight all your desirable qualities.
    • Include at least one full body shot. Data analysis by Zoosk revealed using a photo showing your entire body increased messages received by 203%.
    • Focus on quality. Don’t use blurry, out of focus pictures. When you post poor quality photos, they either make you look like you can’t afford a decent camera or you’re using old, outdated photos.
    • Keep it casual. Travel photos are great, but limit them to 1 or 2. Chemistry.com research indicates 81% of singles want to see pictures of your casual, every day life. Remember, she’s imagining what it’s like to date you. Hobbies, cocktails at the rooftop bar, walking your dog – show her you lead an active, fulfilling life.
    • shirtless selfieAvoid selfies. Especially shirtless, bathroom mirror selfies. 1 in 3 women called them an “almost instant dealbreaker” in a recent Match.com survey.
    • Stay classy. 75% of women reported racy, suggestive photographs as their #1 online dating foul. Don’t be that guy.
    • Don’t fake it. Photoshopping has its place, but leave it to the pros. They can alter a picture while keeping it realistic looking. Women have a knack for spotting touched up photos, and it’s an attraction killer. The majority of online daters prefer unenhanced and natural photos.

Once you’ve compiled your strongest photos, have your female friends rate them. Post the 3-7 photos they like the best, with the most popular one as your primary photo.

You can also use a website like HotorNot to gather some data on what women think about your pics. Good photos will make or break your profile, so it’s worth it to see what a collective group of women thinks about your potential photo options.

3. You made it all about her.

Here’s a real life example:

I am a friendly male, who is into many things, including sports. I am looking for a nice sweet girl. I am just looking to show a girl a good time and that I am a sweet guy. I hope this relationship leads to my dream girl. I am also outgoing and like to make people laugh. I promise you that I will not disappoint you.”

You might be looking for “The One”, but this isn’t the way to find her. Not only does this profile have a whiff of desperation, it tells her almost nothing about the guy who wrote it.

Your profile should be 75% about you, and 25% about the type of woman you’re seeking.

Here’s an easy formula to follow for the “About me” section of any online dating site:

Paragraph 1: Hook her attention and make her want to keep reading. You can tell a travel story or describe a vivid memory, anything that will elicit an emotional reaction or engage her imagination. Humor is great here if you know how to “write funny”.

Paragraph 2: Write about your hobbies, what you do for fun, etc… Remember, just like she’s picturing herself in the frame when she looks at your photos, she’s imagining herself in your life when she reads about what you like to do.

Paragraph 3: Describe what you do for a living in a sexy way. You want her to know you’re a desirable mate – financially stable and able to provide her with the finer things in life.

You can make any occupation sound desirable. For instance, if you’re an accountant, try describing your job like this:

“Monday through Friday, I’m a ninja-with-numbers, defending “the people” against the IRS. Wielding my calculator like a set of flaming nunchucks, I cause auditors to shrivel back into their cubicles in shame.”

Paragraph 4: Now’s the time to tell her what you’re looking for in a woman. You don’t want to be too specific, as that might alienate some women. For instance, choose words like “active”, “enjoys travelling”, and “laughs easily” over phrases like “must love football” or “has to be blonde”.

Once you’ve got your profile written, have a friend read it. What’s interesting to you might come off as boring or arrogant to someone else.

Don’t be shy about asking for help – one-fifth of online daters sought assistance with writing theirs, and 1 in 3 women had someone else write it for them.

4. Your profile is just a list of adjectives

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Set yourself apart from the competition by showing, not telling. Tell her a story that shows how adventurous you are, like the time you went SCUBA diving in Hawaii or zip lining in Costa Rica.

If you’re dependable, caring, and family-oriented, describe taking your sister’s kids to a baseball game, or taking grandma out for dinner. A personal story will grab her attention far better than a boring list of adjectives or activities.

Tons of guys say they like to hike, but you might be the only one who describes hiking like this:

“It starts with a double knot at the laces. You sling your backpack over your shoulders and it’s just you, a trail, and ten miles of forest…”

Stories create an emotional connection, and if she feels connected to your profile, she’ll reply to your message.

5. You don’t have a Call To Action

Borrow a trick from all those marketing geniuses – after you’ve described who you’re looking for, tell her what you want her to do.

“Sound like you? Send me a message, and let’s chat…”


“What are you waiting for? Go ahead, give me a wink and I’ll take it from there…”

It’s simple, it shows confidence, and it works.

Here at ViDA, we’ve been writing magnetic dating profiles for awesome guys just like you since 2009. We know what works and what doesn’t, so why not consult with the experts?

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