With men outnumbering women almost 3 to 1 on Tinder, the attractive women can afford to be selective. To snag her attention, you’ve got to show her why you’re better than the competition flooding her inbox.
We’ve compiled the 11 best Tinder hacks from around the internet so you can optimize your profile and messaging, and get her to say “yes” to a date.
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1. Treat your bio like an advertisement.
Tinder expert Blake Jamieson says the best ads are memorable because they grab your attention immediately, and he recommends applying the same principles to your bio.
Opening lines such as “Sick of swiping left?” build intrigue and compel her to keep reading your Tinder bio. You can get away with more funny/cocky, over-the-top attitude on Tinder than you can in an online dating profile for a site like Match.com or OkCupid.
Click here for 4 fool-proof Tinder profile styles that work.
2. Message her first.
Dating consultant CamMi Pham once got 2,015 matches in 17 hours, and found that only 25-30% of the guys initiated contact. So unless CamMi sent a message first, 70% of her matches went nowhere.
Don’t let your matches fizzle. Grab the reigns and send an icebreaker message. Make your first few words count – that’s all she’ll see while scrolling through her inbox, so if it doesn’t hook her attention she’s already moved on to the next guy.
3. “Like” a lot of pages on Facebook.
Tinder shows which Facebook pages you and your potential matches both like. So take online dating expert James Hawver's advice and spend a little time on Facebook liking the pages of all the TV shows, movies, music, authors, books, companies, etc., that you’re a fan of.
This increases the odds of having things in common with your matches, and mutual interests can cause more women to swipe right on your profile.
But don’t start blindly liking pages en masse; it’s more useful if your likes are actually things you enjoy because chances are those topics will come up in her messages.
4. Use your photos to generate more right swipes.
Women don’t spend a lot of time deliberating over the direction they’ll swipe.
In fact, it’s literally a split second decision – women take about 1/10th of a second to form an opinion of you based on your photograph.
Including certain elements in your photos can shift the odds of a right swipe in your favor. Molly Fedick, founder of women’s interest blog The Eighty8, suggests holding a cute puppy if you want to experience a surge in matches. Shirtless mirror selfies, on the other hand, might lead to more left swipes.
5. Have your female friends choose your photos.
Getting feedback on your pictures is essential. Grab your selection of pics and have your female friends rate them. Not only does this weed out all the weak ones, but it also lets you choose the best 3-5 photos. Use the most popular one as your primary picture.
You can also upload your potential pictures to a website like PhotoFeeler, and get feedback that way. The more women who chime in, the better.
For even more tips on choosing the best online dating photos, click here.
6. Get a feel for the conversation.
Just because she’s wearing a Broncos jersey in one of her profile pictures doesn’t mean she wants to have an in-depth discussion about the latest news out of training camp, warns longtime dating coach Nick Savoy.
If you’re talking about a topic that’s interesting to you, but you’re only getting brief responses, it’s time to take the conversation in a different direction.
7. Ask her out the right way.
Here at ViDA, we’ve learned that suggesting a “meetup” for coffee or drinks is the best way to ask her out. Our team of online dating experts analyzed thousands of online conversations that resulted in dates for our male clients, and giving her two activity options doubled the acceptance rate.
Coffee is a casual 30-minutes, whereas if you suggest dinner and a movie, she’s going to worry about being stuck with you for hours if things don’t look promising.
Also, suggesting a latte means you can avoid the “Tinder Food Stamp” date, where women use the app solely as a way score free dinner and have zero interest in pursuing a relationship.
8. Suggest a public place.
Online dating safety tips for women are plentiful on the internet, and a DatingAdvice.com survey showed that 75% of both men and women would rather meet somewhere than be picked up by their date.
So put her mind at ease right away by suggesting a public place, and ask her to meet you there rather than offering to pick her up. If she feels comfortable about the situation, she’s far more likely to say “Yes”.
9. Don't always swipe right.
Tinder's algorithm punishes you for swiping right 100% of the time, so your swiping needs to go both ways. Or just upgrade to Tinder Gold. You can see all the people who have already “liked” you, and that means a right swipe = instant match.
10. Get her number early.
Women don’t give their numbers away to all their matches; if she’ll give it to you, it’s a good indication she’s interested in a date. Getting her number early in the interaction ensures that you’ll still be able to contact her in case she suddenly deletes her profile.
11. Leave it to the pros!
Of course, the best hack of them all is outsourcing Tinder to the dating experts. No more spending hours on your phone, endlessly swiping. Let us handle it – all you do is show up for the date.