Let’s face it, online dating has just as many drawbacks as there are benefits. I would know, I have to manage close to 100 different dating profiles everyday, and I’ve seen them all…
But I’m going to explain how you can take 3 of the big drawbacks of online dating, and turn them into ADVANTAGES to meeting women online…
Drawback #1: There is a ton of competition.
When you bump into a woman standing in line at the grocery store, you’ve got her full attention. It’s just you two talking, one on one.
With online dating, even half decent-looking women are swarmed with dozens, if not hundreds of emails from guys trying to attract their attention.
The real life equivalent to meeting a woman online is almost like bumping into her, realizing you just met the woman of your dreams – and then suddenly hearing an auctioneer was yelling, “Going once…Going twice…”
You’re shocked to discover that a mosh pit of desperate men surrounds you, you were the last one to arrive and she’s about to be auctioned off…
Luckily, with online dating, you can learn how to stand out above the competition, and once you figure out how to differentiate yourself to women online… this drawback can suddenly become a HUGE advantage…
Once you learn how to communicate effectively online, you won’t REALLY be competing with guys – other guys will make you look better in contrast!
It would be like showing up to that same mosh pit of guys, just as your dream girl is about to get auctioned off – except this time, your bodyguards bust through the doors, and yell “STOP!” as you roll up in a stretch limousine that would impress Donald Trump.
Drawback #2: You can’t really know who you’re talking to.
It’s impossible to truly know who you’re talking to online.
You can spend eons chatting back and forth with women, but until you meet, you don’t know who you’re really talking to.
The person on the other computer that you’re planning your wedding with could be a dude!
Or worse…
(That’s exactly why women are much more cautious about who they will choose to meet – but that’s a whole other issue…)
You can use this drawback to your favor when you’re online, to meet women in person even more quickly.
After a woman has gotten the surface details about you, and you’ve successfully had a few good emails back can fourth, you can say, “Hey, you seem fun so far, but I can’t be sure… The thing that bugs me about online dating is that it’s really hard to truly get to know someone until you meet them in person. So why don’t we meet up briefly next week for a cup of coffee, and chat face-to-face like “normal” people?”
Drawback #3: Online dating is much more superficial than in real life.
Even with the advances of online dating today, woman have very little to work with when determining how attractive you are.
She can’t read your body language, she can’t see you interact with others, and her friends cannot recommend you.
Your looks count more, and women place much more emphasis on your height and income with online dating.
Every syllable you type holds the power to condemn you, or grant you the title of master P.I.M.P.
While this sounds like a bummer, the upside is that with online dating, you get to highlight your strengths much more and therefore you can downplay your weakness equally.
Here’s an example from a recent client (Someone you might consider “a lost cause”):
He was about 5’4’’, Asian, very stereotypically geeky, and I’m pretty sure that my 12 year old niece could SLAM him in a match of arm wrestling.
It was clear from the start that we had our work cut out for us…
But in my company, I have an unconditional success guarantee, so no matter how bad the case; no shortcoming is an excuse for failure.
Besides, I firmly believe that every normal guy has SOMETHING in his life that women find wildly attractive…
… and this client was no exception.
It turns out, that in spite all of his first impressions, I discovered traits about this guy that women would find wonderfully attractive.
He was a backpacking addict and a volleyball champion, and he’d spent all of last summer backpacking across 26 countries in Europe.
…When we were done with his profile, he sounded more badass that Chuck Norris!
To add to the effect, we strategically selected a few photos of him “in action”:
One of him spiking the winning ball over the net…
…Another of him standing on a boulder after a long hike with the sun setting over his shoulder (The angle of the photo also made him look taller)… A couple other photos having a great time with very decent-looking friends…
He had no problems finding women after that…
So don’t let your shortcomings prevent success with women online. There’s always a way to turn things in your favor!
What’s holding you back with online dating right now?
Tell me about it in the comments section, and we’ll see about getting you on the right track right away!
